Tips on settling after a house move
Settling after a house move can not only be a stressful experience but what about the aftermath? Setting up all bills to your new address, re-directing post, the possibility of changing schools for children and most of all, if you’ve moved to a different city/town, how do you make new friends?
Whilst at school it was easy but when you’re a little older, it’s not as easy as it used to be. Surrounding yourself with people who have similar interests and values but also who create a positive environment for you and your family is a good starting point! Here are a few tips to help you connect with neighbors and people in your town:
Be an Instigator
- It would be lovely to think that lots of amazing people will know you’ve moved in and come around with welcome dinners and deserts, but unless you’re in the Stepford Wives club, it probably won’t happen. Start by asking friends if they know people in the town you’re moving to and ask them to ‘hook you up’. If they’re already friends with a friend of yours, you’ll probably find that you have similar interests.
Have a Dog?
- If you have a dog, take it for a walk to a local dog park and chat with the locals. This could potentially help you join a dog walking group or you could even start your own and invite others.
Join local Facebook groups
- Most towns have local groups which provide information on local attractions, events, crime reports etc. Once you join, introduce yourself on there and ask a question to the locals, for example, what schools are recommended or what local restaurants are good. Lots of people will reply and I’m sure you will get invited to a few things too.
Do you have hobbies like sports or yoga?
- If you already have hobbies such as sports or yoga, check out the local classes and sign up. If you don’t have any, start some classes in something you’ve been meaning to try for a while. Alternatively, place a post on the local Facebook site and ask if anyone would like to go with you; the likelihood is that there will be others out there in the same position as you who are too shy to ask.
Local ‘Meep Up’ sites
- Try a local ‘Meet Up’ site; there are websites that help like-minded people meet each other at special interest groups.
Explore around you
- Get out and explore! Find out good places to go i.e. parks etc. Take a good book and wait for people to talk to you!
Starting a new job?
- If you’re starting a new job, lake an effort to get lunch with your colleagues. The more time you spend with them, the more you’ll be able to connect and start hanging out with them outside of work hours.
Take pictures to meet people
- Take pictures at work/local events. If you have pictures of other people, you can always ask if they have a Facebook and if they’d like to be tagged in your pictures, therefore, having to connect as ‘friends’ on Facebook.
Always say yes
- Always do your best to say ‘yes’. Being shy and vulnerable tends to be the biggest thing stopping you from going places. If you’re invited to somewhere, do your best to say ‘YES!’